A cancer diagnosis can turn a person and their loved ones into an emotional turmoil. Dealing with the different side effects and life changes of cancer treatment can be hard on you emotionally as well as physically. They may change daily, hourly, or even minute to minute. This is true whether you’re currently in or out of treatment, or a friend or family member. These feelings are all normal.
According to the National Cancer Institute, these are some of the common emotions that a cancer patient may experience:
When you first learn that you have cancer, you may feel as if your life is out of control. Worrying about future and how cancer will affect their life can often leave people feeling like they’ve totally lost control. Taking the time to study more about your type of cancer will help you gain some perspective. Ask your doctor to explain the things you don’t understand and stay busy.
It may be difficult to accept and believe the fact that you have cancer, when you were first diagnosed. This is called denial. It’s important to face the reality and begin treatment as soon as possible.
Angry is a normal emotion for the patients and their families. Talking with your friends and your family about your anger will help you feel better. Find out what you can do to be proactive in your treatment. It may help you regain some control and channel your anger into something more positive.
Fear and Worry
There are many things that you may be afraid or worried about. For example, Patients are often afraid of dying, being in pain, and of how their diagnosis will affect their loved ones. In addition, they may also worry about their finances and if they will be able to take care of their family.
Learn about your cancer and understand how you can become less afraid and know exactly how to deal with it.
Cancer affects all aspects of life. Therefore, it’s normal that stress and anxiety play a big part in dealing with cancer. Talk to your doctor, if you have these feelings. The important thing is to find ways to control your stress.
Many people involved with cancer feel sad because of a sense of loss of their health and the life that they had before they learned of their diagnosis. It may take time to work through and accept all of the changes. Sadness for some people can lead to depression. It’s important that you talk to your doctor if you feel sad or depressed.
Patients feel guilty or worry that their family or other people may feel like they used to. Sometimes they might blame themselves for the things they did that they think could have led to their cancer.
These feelings are all very common. It may help you to share them with someone. Let your doctor know if you would like to talk with a counselor or attend a support group.
People with cancer often feel lonely or distant from others. This may be for a number of reasons. For example, they may feel that no one understands what they are going through or they may feel too sick to participate in activities with their friends and family.
It could help you to talk to other people who experience cancer or to join a support group. Or, you may feel better talking only to a close friend or family member, or counselor, or a member of your faith or spiritual community.